I've spent most of my career as a kindergarten teacher. I have carried screaming children into school more times than I can count. I have emailed and called worried parents. And, I always have said that at the beginning of the school year I hug more parents than kids! I thought I understood exactly how those parents felt. But, then at 8:00 am a few weeks ago my cell phone rang when I was in my office at school. I answered it because I saw that it was my mom calling. (I am one of those lucky people who has their mom watch their kids each and every day!) As I answered I heard an incredibly loud screaming and for a moment I thought that she had to be on her way to the ER with one of my children. But, instead, it turned out that, Gino, my 5 year old kindergartener was refusing to go to school by throwing a raging fit outside of his elementary school...he threw his backpack and was laying on the sidewalk, kicking and screaming!! My mom was standing outside of the school with Gino and my 2 year old twins. She didn't know what to do because she couldn't carry Gino (who was still kicking and screaming) and the twins safely into the building. So, I picked up my office phone and called the school. The secretary sent the principal outside. I sat helpless in my office as I waited to find out if Gino would ever make it in to the building. Soon, my phone rang and it was the principal, Mr. Wulf. He was calm and kind. He chuckled as he said, "You have a stubborn little boy!" He went on to tell me that Gino made it in to the classroom and stopped crying immediately. Later that day he followed up with an email to let me know that all was well. Mr. Wulf calmed my fears and reassured me that everything was going to be okay.
As I reflect on this experience I am reminded that each and every child in my school is someone's baby. Every child has parents who want nothing more than for them to be happy and safe at school. As I continue to learn how to be the best principal I can for the families and children at my school, I will try hard to remember to look at situations through the eyes of a parent, remember what it's like to be on the other side and remember that all children and parents deserve those few minutes that it takes to make a reassuring phone call or send an email.
As educators it is easy to get used to crying children, forgotten lunchboxes, scraped knees, etc. but we must remember that to the child and the families these issues that seem small or insignificant to us are a really big deal. Our students and families may not remember everything we say but they will always remember how we made them feel.
Thanks Mr. Wulf for taking the time to make me feel better that
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